The middle child is the child within the family, but he is not the eldest, nor is he the youngest. The "Middle Child Syndrome" is called the psychological condition that afflicts this child between his older and younger siblings.
They are usually accompanied by negative feelings the child has towards himself or towards his brothers and parents.. These feelings are not in vain.. They have the most important reasons; The difference in the way parents treat their children and direct their emotions, despite the fact that they all grew up in the same home, in the same family conditions.
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The causes of middle child syndrome are due to this child's confusion in determining his place with his parents, and his lack of the necessary support from them, and these feelings often start after the birth of a new child in the family.
The middle child feels that he is no longer interested in others, especially his parents or those close to the family, and his confusion increases when the child notices that his parents neglect him or are preoccupied with him with the new baby.
The child finds himself, not the older child with the right mind and behavior in the eyes of his parents, nor the spoiled child along the line, so his feelings turn into a kind of jealousy or hatred, and the desire to prove himself .. and draw attention.
Symptoms of "middle child syndrome" This syndrome hides some features; As many of its owners are characterized by independence and the ability to make decisions, but there are negatives that appear in the absence of parental care for this child, which are:
* Feeling frustrated... Low self-esteem... Self-blame.
* Isolation and it may be severe.. Feeling of inferiority.
* Seeking attention..lack of trust in others.
* Jealousy and a tendency to aggression.
He is an antisocial child in the midst of his family, who does not woo anyone enough, and prefers not to integrate within the family environment, while he is distinguished by his ability to form strong relationships outside the family, such as: his peers at school. around him and gain their trust.
And because of the continued neglect of parents, and the failure to remedy the psychological crisis that the middle child suffers from.. the child’s psychological condition may deteriorate to the point of depression.. he feels lonely and perhaps afraid if he is exposed to a bad situation, without the support of his parents.
Treating middle child problems:
* The first step in treatment is to gain the trust of the son.
* That the mother be aware of the problem of her child, and how to deal with it.
* Patience and give more attention.
* A mother supports her middle child's sense of importance.
* Encourage him to express his feelings.
* To share his interests and hobbies.
* Stop comparing him to others..and respect his desires.