Let's be sincere. It's never simple to handle a tantrum in the midst of the supermarket. When did your youngster last have a temper tantrum? Was your level of tension high? Were you feeling powerless?

The majority of parents I speak with concur that these rage outbursts typically occur when a youngster is told "NO." What then should a parent do? Adults tend to react out of shame and rage, in my experience. Parents also fight to control the guilt voice that makes them feel useless and like a "failure."

Here are five brain-based strategies my clients have used to quickly put an end to tantrums.

1. Emotional Regulation – It's critical that children understand they have control over their moods and emotions. They must also realize that they have the power to decide how they will react to disappointment, annoyance, and other negative emotions.

2. Help your child understand their triggers - As a parent, you always have the chance to educate your child on several levels. Many parents are unaware of the advantages of comprehending how the brain affects behavior. Parents who can help their kids identify amygdala-based risks and respond correctly will help them develop higher order thinking and threat-response skills.

3. Demonstrate Expected Behavior-Are you aware that youngsters follow your actions rather than your words? Being a good role model is one of the best things parents can give their kids. For instance, you must act in the same manner yourself if you want your child to treat others with respect.

4. Participate in Felling's- When someone feels stuck, they will take all action necessary to break free. Children frequently don't have the vocabulary to communicate their emotions. It is therefore crucial that parents assist their children in verbalizing their emotions. Parents may comment that a child "seems incredibly delighted," "seems really unhappy," "looks excited," etc. The objective is for parents to verbalize the feeling their child is exhibiting.

5. Teaching children to resolve conflicts amicably is aimed at helping them recognize their feelings and gain control over how they behave. Feelings are a natural element of being human. Children must understand that they have a right to their feelings, according to parents. The actions they do to express those sentiments must be under control at the same time. Children need options, especially when they are in conflict. The phrase "yelling isn't working, here are two things you can do" is used by parents. Children are better able to concentrate, calm down, and follow through when they have a clear choice. The potential to educate personal responsibility is also provided by choices.